The Weight of Unforgiveness


If you’re anything like me, you do not forgive easily. Or at least the old me didn’t forgive easily. The new me is pretty gracious if I don’t say so myself. 


Maybe someone hurt or offended you in such a way that you cannot seem to find it in your heart to forgive that person.


Maybe you have trouble forgiving yourself for past decisions and/or actions toward yourself and others. 


Or maybe you even find it difficult to forgive complete strangers who you feel wronged by in some way (think high profile people in politics/media).


I want to offer you a thought that may help.


What if, instead of thinking of forgiveness as accepting or condoning a behavior, you thought of it like this: 


I forgive __________ for __________. I am setting myself free from the chains of bitterness, anger, resentment, and pain. 


If you are a person of faith, you can also place the offense directly into God’s hands and let Him be in full control of it. Don’t carry the weight or burden of something you weren’t designed for. 

So often, our human design makes forgiveness seem weak or wrong. It's as though by saying we forgive, we're saying we're okay with the offender or offense.

This is anything but the truth. 

It takes great strength and maturity to forgive. It requires humility and grace. And while we're all equipped to offer forgiveness, we must be willing to do so. 

Forgiveness is not easy and it may never be. But when we look at it from the right perspective, we can make the choice to be free from its nasty grip. 

We all deserve to be happy, joyful, and FREE. 


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